Self Care for Women: Let Em Hear You Roar!
We aren't "just" women. We're women, we're wives, we're mothers, we're employed, we're maids, we're nurses, we're chefs (albeit not always good ones...). We carry life inside us, we nurse them, we nurture. We support our husbands, we love them, when times get tough, we try to remember all the reasons we fell in love with them. We stick it out in good and bad. We work and sometimes we don't like to but even those of us who do still feel the drain. We clean our houses, cook meals, sign school papers, pack lunches, have parent/teacher conferences. We gain weight for those precious little ones, get stretch marks, sag in places we didn't know we had, give up our bodies and (for those of us who readily admit it) our sanity. But what do we do for ourselves?? At a job I had several years ago, the boss decided to do Secret Santa's. We all had to fill out a page about ourselves. Birthday, anniversary, favorite flowers, favorite foods, favorite candy, favorite scent, favorite colors, hobbies, things you collect, favorite music, home decor and how we pamper ourselves. Wow. I had no idea. I took the paper home to think about it. Seriously. I don't think it happens intentionally but somehow along the way of being everything to everyone else I believe we lose a little of who we are. Don't get me wrong, I have absolutely no regrets. Even after ten surgeries for my little (or not so little anymore) ones, seven pregnancies and a cumulative eleven years of breastfeeding, a marriage, divorce and subsequent marriage I wouldn't change a thing. I love being wrapped up in my job, my husbands career and my children. But I realized I had no freaking idea who the heck I was anymore. Not only did I fill out the paper, I made a copy of it that stills hangs on my fridge. It's a reminder of who I am and how important it is to spend a little time on myself so I'm better for all those I love. I got a book several years ago called "Wear More Cashmere" by Jennifer "Gin" Sander . It was one of the best gifts I've ever gotten. It's short, funny, easy to read and it was yet another reminder of how little I actually do for myself. I'm a list maker by nature, but while reading I made a list of things I wanted to do or purchase or make for myself. One of the things that was suggested was a "dream diary" in which you essentially write your bucket list. Not just of things to do but things about you. Mine is on my nightstand and I peruse it regularly, updating, crossing things off, etc... It's hard for me to carve out a little time or money but I want my kids to grow up knowing that we all have boundaries, needs, etc... so I try not to feel guilty about using the $20 bubble bath for a blissful 30 minute soak because I want some me time. Thankfully one of my favorite things to do is RUN!!! Ladies, the thing we love is relatively low cost, can be done virtually anywhere, is travel friendly and can be done nearly year round (year round for those of us who pshaw bad weather!!). Don't make excuses and get out there and RUN!! Once you get out and do it for yourself, you'll be better for everyone else. After all, since we are women we should let them hear us ROAR!!!