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10 Ways Couples Can Keep Their Relationship Spicy

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I get asked often how Dane and I have such a positive, thriving relationship. To make sure I’m completely transparent, this isn’t my first relationship; I'm divorced more than once. Reverse engineered made me an expert on how to have a successful relationship. Ironic, how that worked out?

Another thing that made me an expert on this topic is that Dane and I didn’t always have a good relationship. Our relationship, like many, went from really good, not good, bad, super awful, ugly, splitting up,…

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Best Marriage Advice Truths

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It's interesting what I've written about in the last almost 9 years I've had this blog. I wrote through a divorce and all I divulged was that I was moving and feeling more stress than normal. There was absolutely no information about the divorce whatsoever. I'd like to think it's entirely due to wanting to protect the other party, as he isn't co-writing to share his side of things, but if I'm more raw, it's because I've felt embarassment over relationships that have ended. The same goes moving f…

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Truths that Children Teach Us

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There are so many truths that children teach us. In fact, there have been moments in parenting when I’ve wondered what gave me the right to think I could be a decent parent, what my intentions were, and how I could (please) do a better job. It began with my body healing after childbirth, sitting for hours breastfeeding and wondering if my butt would be permanently flat, smelling like spit-up for what seemed like years, toddler temper tantrums, snot, potty training, and the exhaustive list goes o…

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The Ups and Down of Being Mommy

Oh, the ups and downs of being a mommy! Yes, it's an amusing thing to say. I remember watching a movie and the Mom told the child to call her "Auntie" in public. I choked on my drink. There are days when it feels like Mom is the only word you hear and there's no one else to answer the call. Yes, I'm thankful for the kids and I wouldn't trade my life for anything, but in those parenting moments of exhaustion, overwhelm, uncertainty or despair, when tears are falling and you wonder if you'll eve…

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Dating Advice: How to Convert a Runner

There was a period of time in my life that I was single. Fourteen years ago I found myself divorced.

My first blind date via a friend and my daughter asked me, "Don't you want to date a runner?”.   I wanted someone who had the same desire to live a healthy lifestyle. I wanted to be on the same page with exercise and diet.   Someone who understood my running disease. Someone who would buy me running socks for the heck of it and ask me regularly if I needed new running shoes. Perhaps a man who …

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How Women Can Raise Their Self-Esteem

Years ago in what seems like another life, I volunteered my time teaching classes to adults through the Head Start program which offered daycare and meals to low-income families. I enjoyed my seminars and I firmly believe that making a difference in a small way in one person's life is worth putting in some time and effort. That small difference in how a woman feels about herself can begin a domino effect of life-altering changes. My classes were on Reducing Stress and Raising Self Esteem.  If,…

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My Top Foster Care and Adoption Advice

Eighteen children (but a "core" of 13) call me “Mom” so your confusion is understandable when I tell you that, from the age of 15, I didn’t think I could have children. The short story… Seven infertility surgeries and LOTS of medication later I did have a child. It was enough of an experience that I knew if things didn’t happen on their own, I would adopt. I did everything up to in-vitro fertilization which, at the time, I felt was not an option for me. I adopted several children and two that …

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Website and Life Updates

Its been a while. Mostly because I've been overhauling the site with a little help from my friend Brandon of BDG WebDesign. So I'm sharing some website AND life updates. It shouldn't look much different to anyone, but everything behind the scenes is new and improved and it took some time to get it done. Thanks to Brandon for doing the stuff I don't get and for years of tolerating my questions. OK, he "pets" my hair when I'm really not getting things, so it's an even deal...

Dane and I got our…

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10 Useful Facts Every Woman Should Know

I've never understood a couple of things. One: Why don't women embrace being women. That means we aren't men, are unique and how amazing is that? Two: Why don't we support each other more? We're all women, we all go through a list of the same issues, we're all struggling in similar ways. Geez, band together and raise each other up.

10 Facts Every Woman Should Know; 

1. Everyone has rolls when they bend over.
2. When someone tells you that you're beautiful, believe them. They aren't lying.
3. S…

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Don't Assume That I Have It All Together

Recently on a run, a friend asked me for parenting advice. The timing was interesting since - on this particular run - I was internally decompressing about my own parenting. Having 9 teenagers in the home makes life fun and interesting, it keeps me young and ages me. People comment often: "I don't know how you do it and stay sane!", "You have such a big heart!", "You have it so together!". Bull. Who says I'm sane, have a big heart, or have anything together? People assume an awful lot. Kids don'…

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