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The Importance of Dating & Romance in Marriage

Date night is a big deal in our home. So much so that when Dane and I didn't make it out for a couple of weeks, Alana (with Gabe's help) made us a gift to remind us that we need to go. The kids know us having some alone time is important because we've taught them that it is.  Some weeks it can't or doesn't happen and we're always striving to find some sort of balance between the demands of work, kids and us.

Sometimes having a romance with the same person is challenging.  But I remind myself …

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Finding Inspiration In A DNF

DNF.  Those horrid little letters that mean SO much to a runner.  Did Not Finish.  It's one thing us runners try desperately to avoid.  The finish, after all, is where we want to be.  Why, though, can't we embrace the DNF?  Why does it have to be such a bad thing? Sometimes it's about finding inspiration in a DNF. 

Sometimes you meet people you connect with and I've been blessed in my life to have stumbled across a few and clung to those friendships. Seek people who inspire you to be better t…

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Am I Enough as a Mother

There are those days. Days as a Mom I wonder if I'm enough. Am I doing enough, spending enough time, teaching my kids what's really important in life? They are important.  They are incredible.  I am blessed to be called Mommy.  I am proud of the people they are becoming.  They are the best decision I have ever made.  

They are loved and valued.  They are worth it.  But on those days.  The tired days.  The I need some time for myself days.  The grumpy days.  The overwhelming days.  The days I …

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My Return to Running - Unleashing The Runner Within

The only bad run is the one that didn't happen.  When you're having a crappy run, it's difficult to believe that.  

Recently, I ran in 90* heat, with my dog Kalley and Dane riding his bike.  I was planning on running 7 miles, but the traffic on the road was heavy, Kalley was really off and Dane was miserable, so we turned around at 2.75.  Right after the turn around something spooked Kalley and she tripped me.  On my knees, hit the pavement, eat dust in a big way kind of trip.  I instantly fe…

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For the Mom Who Thinks She's a Jerk

As a Mom, I'm a jerk.  It's true.  I do horrible things.  

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Here are just some examples of how I'm a jerk:

  • I teach my children to do chores.  Together.
  • I tell them to spend time outside - playing.
  • I buy them bikes, skateboards, running shoes so that they exercise.
  • I make them share.  Bedrooms, bathroom, clothes, books, etc...
  • No devices are allowed at the dinner table and we eat together.  I force them to engage with the family at the same time.
  • I ask them their opinions.  Yes, I mak…

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How to "Date Night" & The Rules to Follow

Date night is nearly non-negotiable.  It's almost always on Saturday night, however, we've been known to get a little crazy and go on Sunday. Dane and I trade weeks.  I plan one, he plans the next.  

So here's how we "date night".  And we have a few rules we follow.  No being whiny about what the other person chooses.  No relationship discussions - this is the time to build each other up, not complain.  Our favorite thing to do is to eat dinner.  Well, MY favorite thing.  I like to get dinner d…

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Adoption and Foster Care Questions

When people hear that we have 18 kids and 10 at home, I get asked a lot of questions about adoption and foster care. One question that is asked the most is -  "How big is your house?" or "Your house must be huge!".  With the exception of one larger house, I've never had a "big" house.

The assumption is that it would have to be 6 bedrooms and 4000 square feet.  Not at all.  It's not about the space you have, but how you use that space.  Certainly, a house has to meet certain requirements - we …

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A Simple Place Called Home

Home should be simple not hectic. "Home is eye contact, hand-holding, hugs, tears and hearts bursting with love and connection. Home is compassion and patience. It’s laughter and trust and unconditional support. Home has very little to do with the physical spaces we create."

An excerpt from Courtney Carver's blog HERE.  She is one of my favorite bloggers about minimalism and so much more. I didn't understand minimalism and, in fact, would probably have told you you were crazy if you had appro…

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Helping Kids with Self-Esteem

A health magazine showed up in my mailbox recently. I'm not sure how or why it got there - I don't have a subscription - but since it was there, I read it. Generally information is so readily available on the web, I'm not as interested in magazines. Too bad - in some ways. I enjoyed getting my coffee when the house was quiet and curling up with it.

Not too long ago, my kids and I watched THIS VIDEO about photo-shopping.  I want them to know that what we see in media and magazines is unrealist…

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A Minimizing Update

It's time for a minimizing update.

Things I do that I'm not proud of, but I've changed:

  • Buy on sale or second hand - as if inexpensive makes it OK to get something you don't want/need.  Oh, it's only $3, $5, $10......  It's still a waste of money if you don't need it
  • Put an item of clothing on, dislike it, and hang it back up in my own closet.  Geez.  No more of that!  Why put something back you don't like?  But I've done it a bajillion times. (that's a real number)
  • Keeping things out of…

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